As I learned I was the odd man out on a significant decision my emotions instantly elevated. Even my best ‘centering’ skills eluded me.
Frenetic emotional energy is rarely helpful. Although, pretending the decision doesn’t matter is a bit like trying to catch a tornado in a bag. It quickly breaks through. Throwing the emotion on others is destructive.
Have you had this experience? Here is what works for me to begin move through it:
- Admit the dissapointment
- Dissipate the energy, to begin to regain calm center:
Physical activity – preferably outside
| Talk with a trusted advisor
Write, journal
Consciously breathe
Give it time
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Reflect on the reality of the decision: What is true? What is not true?
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Revisit your intention, what is it that you want? Does this decision move you toward it?
Situations that trigger an intense emotional response, always indicate to me it is time to re-visit my intentions and stepback to check reality. Many of you may experience a similar feeling when changes seem thrust upon you.
Whatever you decide don’t extinguish your light or contaminate the decision for others. There is no right or wrong…just different.
What can you add?
Warm regards,
Karen
This is a great morsel of re-centering. I find it helpful to put the word “CURIOUS” in front of me when situations like this arise. Asking curious questions, like “What would really help me to see this logically?” “What do I need to let go of?” “What will I do to keep from getting fatalistic?” I find that burning that hurt energy this way helps work through the cycle of emotion.
Good suggestions, These help if it is one off. If it is happening all the time, You probably are in a wrong place and had to search for alternatives.
Angie, I love the word curious! And, sometimes it helps me to think of ‘entertainment’ as well…in the sense of this is fascinating to watch myself in the scenario.
Raju, I so agree with you. If values and vision are not shared there isn’t much else to go on. Thanks for your comment.