Is it a feeling or a knife?

It was a downward spiral, guided by a therapist to boot! Okay, okay, it was a television show, but a lot of people take their cues from entertainment. “I feel that you are not listening to me,” and “I feel that you are always cutting me off,”...

It takes just one

The spark from the conflict vanished as quickly as a newbie scout trying to light a fire by rubbing sticks; nobody else noticed the incident between Frick and Frack. However, everyone around Frick and Frack felt the effects of incident, the burn, for a week. The...

Get your Fresh Eyes on

Habits and routine blind us.  “When a habit emerges, the brain stops fully participating in decision making,” says Charles Duhigg in The Power of Habit. Fresh eyes and energy to engage a world seen anew are opened by change. I made a deliberate change...

When is banana a sword?

A banana can’t really hurt you. A friend offered me a banana recently.  She was so intent on me having one I got irritated… I just don’t like bananas! I responded a little defensively;  I was not as gracious as I would have liked.  It caused me to...

Odd man out

As I learned I was the odd man out on a significant decision my emotions instantly elevated.  Even my best ‘centering’ skills eluded me. Frenetic emotional energy is rarely helpful.  Although, pretending the decision doesn’t matter is a bit like...