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When does explaining become complaining? When it becomes about blaming another person or circumstances. While explaining is helpful in problem solving or research, it is often a waste of air when it becomes a complaint or excuse. Acknowledge what is and move on. Take...

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What will you be like this week a carrot, egg or coffee beans? Longer than my usual Spiral Daily, but love this parable, author unknown. A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her.  She did not know how she was...

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What do you fear? F.E.A.R = Fantasy experienced as real…many fears serve no function! Let them go. Inspired by the lunar eclipse… The best questions foster understanding, spark innovation, diffuse negative conflict, and build influence – Spiral Daily...

Keep moving and bend your knees!

This is my 25-year anniversary of practicing aikido and helping people learn about influence, collaboration, and conflict! Even after all the years the words, “Keep moving and bend your knees,” holds relevance to me both in my martial arts practice and my...

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What if, you said simply ‘Ouch’ when you feel someone is insensitive? Works like magic, try it.  This is uncomplicated, clear and without judgement. The best questions foster understanding, spark innovation, diffuse negative conflict, and build influence...

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What makes you wobble? Noticing when you feel off, or wobbly, is the first step to finding clarity. Ask yourself, what triggered this feeling? How am I doing with centering and breathing practice? Is there any truth to what threw me off? The best questions foster...